The Same Page Blues
The destination of many couples is brunt on the same page. What are some struggles of opposites when they attract?
Evening and welcome to my humble podcast abode. I am Coco Grieux just a 50 something who relishes in talking about life, love, and a smattering of other topics. The same page is the premier destination for many couples. This place represents happiness, contentment, and the pathway to a lasting relationship. My mom used to say nothing beats understanding. When you and your partner are on the same page, life is good! A longtime friend of mine Wayne and I were talking about how people can have so much in common, but certain elements in relationships hinder long-term success. These couples have a case of the same page blues. It seems they cannot make it to that destination.
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Let me give you a few examples of what this can look like. You have a person who you are genuinely interested in, and you're connected to them. You just see yourself being involved with this person for a very long time. You are an introvert, and they are an extrovert. There's some strong potential for problems to arise in this situation. A great night to you is sitting down and watching a movie and having a conversation, only when it's necessary, Your partner wants to go out and be the life of the party among friends. You guys are not on the same page, you have the same page blues. There's a lot of talk about how opposites attract. But when you get down to the fundamentals of a person's personality, sometimes that opposite can derail an entire relationship. I want to make a suggestion with the situation. The time to talk about these kinds of issues is not when you find yourself in conflict. This has to be fleshed out ahead of time. Compromise is a great tool to introduce into the relationship. Maybe you spend your evening watching a movie, and the extrovert goes out and spends time with friends. It takes a lot of trust to be able to do that. I'm not a fan of contorting yourself to be something you're not just to please someone else. Even if you genuinely care about the other person. I think it is an unrealistic expectation to do everything together. This is something you have to talk about when you're starting a relationship in terms of expectations because expectations can be resentments on layaway. Are you okay with your partner going out when you don't feel like it? Or are you okay with your partner staying at home when you don't feel like it? These are very grown-up conversations to have and you have to put feelings aside. Just be real about where you are with one another. It is human to go along to get along, but in the end, not being your authentic self will get old. Faked the page, invite the rage.
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So back to tonight's topic. One of the oddest pairings of people I have observed, not being on the same page is marathon talkers and sprinters. Have you seen these couples? One partner lassos your ear to the point you have to wave your napkin as a gesture of surrender. The other partner barely says two words in a 30 minute time period. The words dash out of their mouth so quickly, you have to pay keen attention, or you will miss the fact they said anything at all. How do these people maintain a relationship? Frequently, they do not. Not only are these people not on the same page, they're not even in the same book. I saw an amazing quote. It's "Never seen quiet is weak and loud is strong." That is a beautiful message, but the fact of the matter is most people I know that entered into the marathon/sprinter relationships just crash and burn. The quiet person is a sounding board for the mouth-almighty tongue everlasting partner. Sprinters can be attractive to marathoners because they provide a captive audience. What happens when the sprinter wants to be heard? Should the marathoner take the initiative to make the sprinter talk more? These and other pressing questions will be addressed in part two of this episode next Wednesday.
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Thanks for listening tonight. And as always, I wish you good health, good fortune, and a goodnight, Cocoa Griot out!
