Why Is Celibacy Taboo in Our Society?

One of the quickest ways to spark controversy in a conversation is to mention the fact you are celibate.

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Good evening and welcome to my humble podcast abode. I am Cocoa Griot that 50 something single mom who relishes talking about life, love, and a heaping of other topics. My best friend always tells me that there's a sock for every shoe. I kindly remind her that some people just maybe sandals. I don't even like socks with sandals. The encouragement to find a partner is all around us. But is it really necessary? So many people have settled into being single, and they have gotten incredibly comfortable in their present state. I just want you to know that it is okay to be the "I" in celibacy.

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My married friends are always question me about how I survive without physical intimacy. The answer is quite simple, celibacy is my new drug. Now I've never been one to partake in using illicit substances, but I do know that euphoria of a natural high. Celibacy enhances my life in three main ways. There's some people might find surprising. I'm in year four now, not because I haven't had offers, but because I choose to be celibate.

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Celibacy affords me the time and space to explore myself. When one is involved in a physical relationship, there is a mental chatter that's constantly going on from a partner, even if you are separated because of work hours, or other engagements. There's usually some type of commitment to continual conversation that ensues. So positive self talk. My positive self talk has increased exponentially since I've been celibate. I don't obsess over my body like I do when I had to undress in front of someone. I love me some me. This next line is going to sound really weird, but I have to take a moment to introduce the sponsor for tonight's show.

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Now back to the topic at hand. On my bathroom mirror the words I am enough are conspicuously scrawled. Those words are a constant reminder that I don't have to measure up to anyone's standards, but my own. My only competition in life is to be a better person tomorrow than I was today. The magnifying mirror on my vanity is a bastion of truth, no filters Photoshop or other enhanced with a present. When I meet my bare face in the morning, I chuckle when I remember how I used to wake up an hour before my partner to plaster my face with makeup. Waking up alone frees me from this formidable chore.

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Mental clarity. When you are physically involved with the partner, you don't just wait to physically join to ignite the fire. Calls and texts are always a part of the regimen to help stoke the fires of passion. It takes an incredible amount of mental energy to keep up the pace of volley texting for hours. Now, I use that energy to write about my life, love, and other topics. I was able to start this podcast with a goal of helping other women's with trials and struggles in life. The precision of my focus is amazing. The feedback I received from people who listen to this weekly podcast is super encouraging a small change in my life is making a large impact on other people's lives.

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Let me talk about freedom for a moment, my interactions with men are more comfortable when I'm celibate. I truly believe that the energy of sex can alter your ability to be rational, at times Y'all, I'm being so nice right now. If a man doesn't call or text on a regular basis, I don't freak out. I have a much more relaxed disposition because I know I'm not giving him something I can never get back. I cannot tell you how many times I have sprained my dignity. When a man was infrequent with communication, after we started a physical relationship. I freed myself by enjoying the additional pursuits in my life, like blogging and podcasting. My mom had a saying that I understand more today than I did when she first shared it with me. If a man wants to talk with you, he will call you. If he doesn't call you, he is talking to who he wants to talk to. Don't bother him. Focus on yourself.

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